LOVE DARE DAY FIVE COMPLETE =)

There was a question in today's devotion , "would your husband say you're a blessing, or that you're condescending and embarrassing?"

Lets look at what the definition's of blessing and embarrassing are :

embarrassing- hard to deal with.

blessing- something promoting or dealing with happiness

     

     I don't know about you, but I want to be a blessing to be around. I always try my best to be a happy go lucky person. I want my husband to think I am a delightful person to spend the rest of his life with. At times we all can be hard to deal with, we all can get moody, grumpy, ect. That's part of life. But I want to spend my life with my husband as a blessing to him. 

     The dare for today was ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him to be uncomfortable or irritated with me. I only imagined what Bert was going to say. I must say, my stomach has been in knots all day because of this question. I had to think all day long about his three things that annoy me. I love my husband 110%. I even love his little quirks about him. It was really hard choosing three things about him that annoy me. I didn't want to fail the dare and not tell him anything, considering I love everything about him, even his snoring. I don't know if I could handle being without him and his snoring some nights, and other nights I'm almost glad to have the bed to myself while he is at work. lol. 

     Though, Bert told me, I annoy him when I use his side of the bathroom sink, when he needs to go to sleep I won't quit talking, and I'm a picky eater. And I told him, his snoring, that I wish he would help me out more often with the cats (litter box... feeding....), and he puts off doing things for himself. 

      I'm sure being a picky eater can be pretty embarrassing when we are out eating. I mean, it must look strange to others when I walk back to our table with a big pile of rice and gravy and a salad from a buffet. Or asking for a hamburger with only pickles. I'm sure people wonder if my husband is ordering for a pregnant wife. lol. I have recently become a little more daring. I ate a steak for the first time in my life time two years ago. 

     I can improve on using my side of the sink if we could fix the slow draining problem. We do have his and hers sinks. Bert's sink works so much better than mine, I've just started using his more often. I've even moved my tooth brush and tooth paste over to his side. But I understand it's his space and I'm invading it!! I need to go back to  using  mine again. 

     It takes me thirty minutes to fall asleep. I forget things that were important during the day I wanted to tell my husband. Then he falls asleep in five minutes. And I'm still talking. I know it bothers him, but my mind races as soon as my head hits the pillow. I've tried sleeping pills to help me sleep perscribed by a doctor of course. But they all have had odd side effects, not to mention it ruins half of the next day.

     I think I can strongly improve on these areas, may take a little bit of work and time and dedication, but to be a blessing and not embarrassing to my husband is what I am going to strive to accomplish. By my husband telling me these things, doesn't mean he loves me any less. It means he wants me to work with him and for him, not against him. I'm glad Bert still loves my faults. To love means to love everything about someone. Even if I am a picky eater, don't use my side of the sink, or talking while Bert tries to fall asleep. 

     I'm thankful for this Love Dare, it's opened up my eyes to a few things about myself. I've always been a good listener, so I was ready to hear what Bert's three annoying things were about me. I didn't attack his answers or justify. Okay, maybe I was selfish and justified my talking while sleeping and sink problem. But only so he can help me better myself and start using my sink, and remind him about trying to find ways to help me sleep hasn't worked. More or less an attempt to say I'm sorry and I'm going to try and please him more often and not be selfish in my ways.