I'll be the greatest fan of your life...

     I hope that your positive list on the previous day was as long as mine. If not, please know that I am praying for you. Day 7 reminds us the only time you should glance in the door of the Depreciation Room is to know how to pray for your spouse. You will find more to concentrate on if you continue to focus on the positive list on Dare 8. Funny thing is about looking for the positive, we can find it. Be warned, after talking to another friend on the Dare for day 7, it works the other way as well.
    Today starts a new fresh week in the Love Dare. I must say the first week we met some challenges with our dares. But I'm still trying to work my way through the problems to make them better.
     Jealousy is something we all share. In my book it should be a deadly sin to be jealous. It is. It's envy. If you aren't envious of something, then you aren't jealous. Jealousy starts when we have a strong passion for something. I am very passionate about my photography as my husband is passionate about his music.
     This is where that, "what's yours is mine, what's mine is yours..." part of your promise comes into place. Rather than looking at it as my hubby plays music on his off weekends and I am sleeping half the day recovering from staying out late hours... I should look at it as, he is doing what he was placed here on this earth to do. People don't always want a photo shoot, but people always want to hear good music. I should look at it as, my hubby is amazing at what he does, and his success shows. I take pride in his music. I post status updates to get people to come to his shows. I chair cheerlead for him after every song, clapping and whoot whooting. I very rarely ccasionally get up and dance.
     And hubby, instead of being jealous I have a photo session that day should want to make sure to see that is time for me to be refreshed so that I can bring even more into the relationship. It's all in the perspective, all in the way you look at it. No ones talents should be put before the others. They should be shared with equal passion. And not be jealous. This means no one's talent should consume more time than the others.
     But I know I will always be at your show being the biggest fan. Only missing a gig if I am deathly ill. I think in the six years we have been together, I only showed up late to one gig. When I should have stayed home and get well... I wanted to show my support for you.
     When I first read today's dare, the song, I'll be got stuck in my mental juke box. And it's been there since 4:30 am this morning. When we first got together and had been married for a year, we talked about possibly getting married in a church on our fifth year of marriage after we had found a church and a pastor we both loved. I think that the song I'll be should be our official second dance. =) That would make me oh so happy!!!
     I found it very easy to destroy the list of negatives. I was more than happy to burn it and have it out of my house. I almost failed the dare because I didn't want to write anything at all on the list of negatives. ANYTHING! My husband and I have so many positive experiences we have shared. Lately we have been focusing on the negative a little bit much. And how to improve the negative. I think we should REMIND ourselves of the positive more OFTEN. And not dwell on the negative. We know what the negative is, but it doesn't need to start sounding like a broken record. I think that is one way we can both encourage each other toward future success on both of our parts. IF we constantly think of negative experiences then the happy ones won't get as much attention.
     The last paragraph was just an observation....

     A success my husband recently enjoyed was celebrating his 51 birthday. The event was held at a local bar where he and I had our first date. SO many happy memories from our marriage have come out of that establishment. He was surrounded by all of his friends and some family even came by to surprise him. He had a huge smile on his face all night. The way he turned 51 is the way I wish to turn 51, with all of my biggest fans supporting me. Turning 51 is a big accomplishment =) I just thought turning 21 was!!!!

Today's love dare was to burn the list of negative attributes about your spouse and focus on their achievements. It also said to discreetly burn the list, but when I got done burning it, the piece of paper left almost looked like a heart!! Of course, picture!!! =) So much for being discreet about it huh? ♥ Love is as strong as death. IT's jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire. Song of Soloman 8:6. Jealousy is one of the strongest drives known to man. It comes from the root word ZEAL. Zeal means to burn with intense fire.

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"I'll Be"

The strands in your eyes that color them wonderful
Stop me and steal my breath.
And emeralds from mountains thrust toward the sky
Never revealing their depth.
Tell me that we belong together,
Dress it up with the trappings of love.
I'll be captivated,
I'll hang from your lips,
Instead of the gallows of heartache that hang from above.

[Chorus:]
I'll be your crying shoulder,
I'll be love's suicide
I'll be better when I'm older,
I'll be the greatest fan of your life.

And rain falls angry on the tin roof
As we lie awake in my bed.
You're my survival, you're my living proof.
My love is alive -- not dead.
Tell me that we belong together.
Dress it up with the trappings of love.
I'll be captivated,
I'll hang from your lips,
Instead of the gallows of heartache that hang from above

[Chorus]

And I've dropped out, I've burned up, I've fought my way back from the dead.
I've tuned in, turned on, remembered the things that you said

[Chorus:]
I'll be your crying shoulder,
I'll be love's suicide
I'll be better when I'm older,
I'll be the greatest fan of your...
I'll be your crying shoulder,
I'll be love's suicide
I'll be better when I'm older,
I'll be the greatest fan of your life.

The greatest fan of your life.
...greatest fan of your life.